Hilltoppers Newcomer Information
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- For the Newcomer to Al-Anon
- Al-Anon is for those of us who have family, friends, or relatives who have or have had a drinking problem. Alcoholism is technically defined as the inability to control drinking. While the ultimate personal decision about whether a person is an alcoholic or not must be left to that individual, many of us can see that there is abnormal and/or problematic drinking long before the other person will admit that there is a problem. Many adults question whether they have been affected by alcoholism. If someone close to you has, or has had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you in determining whether alcoholism affected your childhood or present life, and if Al-Anon is for you.
- Below is a list of items that may help you determine if the Al-Anon program is for you.
- Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
- Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
- Do you fear criticism?
- Do you overextend yourself?
- Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
- Do you have a need for perfection?
- Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
- Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
- Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
- Do you care for others easily, but find it difficult to care for yourself?
- Do you isolate yourself from other people?
- Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
- Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
- Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
- Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
- Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and/or abusive?
- Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
- Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
- Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
- Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?
- Further Considerations for the Newcomer
- If you think you would like to go to an Al-Anon meeting, check the schedule to the left, or go directly to the Hilltoppers Meeting Schedule. There is a Newcomer's Meeting that is specifically structured for newcomers. Please also consider that it's good to attend several meetings, preferably different meetings, before deciding if Al-Anon is for you or not. Please try to attend at least six meetings before making a firm decision. The Hilltoppers Newcomer Meeting typically focuses on one of the following six topics, which are specifically structured for the newcomer to Al-Anon:
- Al-Anon: How it Works
- The Al-Anon Slogans
- Step 1: Surrender
- Step 2: Growing Spiritually
- Step 3: Letting Go Spiritually
- Chairing the Newcomer Meeting
- The Hilltoppers Newcomer Meeting is always looking for fresh input to the meeting. If you are interested in chairing the Newcomer Meeting, there is a sign-up calendar available at any regular Hilltoppers meeting. The requirements for chairing the Newcomer Meeting are: two years in Alanon and having worked the 12 Steps with a sponsor.
Ask the chairperson at any regular Hilltoppers meeting for more info.
- Every Al-Anon group has but one purpose: "...to help families of alcoholics..." (Tradition Five). Consider the Al-Anon Declaration: "Whenever anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon be there - and let it begin with me"
Alcoholism is a family disease. Those of us who live with, or have have lived with, this disease as children or adults sometimes have problems which the Al-Anon program can help us to resolve. If you have answered yes to some of all of the above questions, Al-Anon may be of help to you. You can contact Al-Anon by checking your local telephone directory, or from the Resources page. Phone numbers and Contact Information for the Austin Area are listed on the Contact Page of this website.